The Boobs Amongst The Buff

Maybe it's because I'm unsociable, or plain lazy, or just too simple, but most of my close friends comprise of guys.  Not that I'm complaining, because I treasure our friendship very much!  And I'm definitely not saying that this will apply to all of you girls who are in the same situation as I was, but… 

Seriously, this was (my) life as a girl with many man friends:

1. People (girls especially) think you're a flirt.

They'll wonder "Why is that girl always with guys?"  And then their imaginations run wild and stories about you throwing yourself at guys will be concocted.  Because "Guys won't just approach her what.  Plus she's not even pretty!  And she doesn't have many girl friends, so she can't be friendly!"  I know this was especially terrorising for me in secondary school.  But ah, it's okay, it's only human nature to let our minds wander.

2. Girls get mad at you for always hanging out with "their man".

     (I say "their man" cause they're not actually theirs.)

Although it's clear that you guys are simply friends, some girls will actually get mad at you for being close to their crushes or guys whom they like.  It's not like the girls own the guys cause they're not even their boyfriends.  It sounds absurd, I know!  But I'm not kidding.  And while I do have a personal experience to share, I shall…  Keep it to myself…  Haha!

3. The guys make harsh comments about you and expect you to be okay with it.

This doesn't happen all the time; trust me, guys can be the best encouragers, and sweetest counsellors, but sometimes, they're EVIL.  We know that guys just LOVE to tease girls, but sometimes, their remarks are too frank and rather hurtful.  For me personally, I've received comments like "What are you wearing??  HAHA!  You look like an Auntie!!"  Ouch.  Just because I wasn't their ideal portrayal of a girlfriend, they had to criticize my dress sense!  Different girls have their own style okay?!  And we've got emotions too!

4. You can feel really left out when they talk about "guy stuff".

Let's face it.  Guys and girls tend to take interest in different things.  And when you're surrounded by "manly men", you just can't help but feel a little out of place sometimes.  Just the other day I went out to dinner with a few of my man friends.  While I enjoyed their company, I was completely lost when they started talking about their muscles, how often they hit the gym, and how much they benched.  Like, "You lift?  Oh yeah, I lift 15 too.  15 what again?  Oh right, kg."

5. When it comes to food, you either lose out or get a free garburator.

This is actually pretty hilarious.  Eating with guys can be both a good and bad thing.  On the one hand, they're great when you can't finish your food - they'll help you eat it all up and no food will be wasted!  On the other hand, they'll prevent you from eating enough at "zi char" stalls!!  Think about it:  you guys all paid the same amount, but they'll snatch the food up before you can even get to it!

6. Potential friends or boyfriends are afraid to approach you.

Most guys would be intimidated to approach a girl face-to-face if she always had a bunch of guys around her.  This means your guy friends may very well be chasing away potential friends or boyfriends!  Think of all the guys who secretly want to talk to you but may never have had the courage to do so!  Then again, you could be thankful for the "bodyguards" you have guarding you from all the creeps and stalkers out there…

7. You get the full-fledged "bro-treatment".

I have to say, this is the best part about having many man friends!  Sure, the "bro-treatment" includes hearing their burps and smelling their farts.  It even means listening to their sick, twisted jokes and comments about "hot girls".  But you know they'll never fail to share their heart with you and talk to you about their girl issues.  They will stand up for you and be there for you in your time of need.  They won't fight about petty issues and hold grudges against you.  Aww… Now isn't that sweet?  

Definitely, there are waaaay more features that characterize what it was like to be "the boobs amongst the buff", but these are just a few that I'd like to share!  I believe that friendship is something worth treasuring and I'm sure we've all been placed in various friendships for a reason.  :)